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Jez Is a Pin-Up: Train, Forever Sports & Start Your Business Magazine

Well, not quite, and with fashion sense like his I don’t think pin up is ever going to be on the cards but 2015 has been a bit of a busy time for Jez already, appearing on the front cover of the world’s most popular small business magazine, Start Your Business, with a 5 page feature on his approach to changing behaviour in order to improve results; a full page feature in Train magazine (think muscles, not choo choo) and a column in the Like A Boss feature of Forever Sports magazine, plus features in local and national press, radio and Candis magazine.

If you see Jez in print, why not tweet a photo to him @JezRose ?

Here’s Jez proving that he’s not pin-up material:

The most common question I’m asked: Why did I become a motivational speaker?

Jez Rose considers his title vile and believes he is an "accidental motivational speaker".

Jez Rose considers his title vile and believes he is an “accidental motivational speaker”.

I’m asked that question a lot. It’s not exactly at the top of the Careers Advisor’s list of potential career pathways for most 17 year olds. I don’t even remember “guest speaker” being on the list. I took those personality and career tests at school and they suggested I became either a nanny, undertaker or cleaner. Make of that what you will.

Well, the truth is I didn’t intend to become a motivational speaker and actually hate the term, as I’ve written about in other blogs. For a start, most people shudder, or at least screw up their nose when they hear the phrase “motivational speaker”. It’s a vile phrase and when you consider the practicalities of motivating large audiences of people (my audiences range from 50 to over 3,000 individuals), an impossible task.

My story is genuinely one of those “I just stumbled into it” ones. I had no plan to do this and when people ask me how to get into it, it’s a tough one to answer. However, in itself it does provide a useful answer, I believe. If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way to do it. If you don’t get round to doing it, you didn’t want to do it enough. It’s as simple as that. Whether you want to speak at conferences or own your own flower shop, grow your own business, or progress through the corporate ranks, it boils down to

When You Think You’re Having A Bad Day – it’s been one hell of a week

Forgive me.

I’m not really a fan of blogs. I enjoy writing them; it’s reading other peoples’ blogs I’m not all that fussed with. I never have been. I don’t think I’ve got anything more important to say than anyone else, don’t get me wrong, I just enjoy a good book or research paper (I know, what a catch, right?). I love the idea that in the film Julie and Julia, someone write a daily food blog, charting her adventures through the cookbook of Julia Childs, gaining hundreds of thousands of readers as she did it – and I can see how blogs provide a great platform for free speech, however, like I’m mac not PC; I’m book, not blog.

However. Today, I really do think I’ve got something to say that you should read.

Today, is Tuesday and for the first time ever, I’m using my blog to literally let rip. I’m apologising in advance because I have no other outlet right now and when you’ve read this, you’ll understand why I just have to get this all off of my chest and out of my mind, for my own sanity. I would call one of my friends but they’ll be asleep. I’m on my way to America and it’s super early.

What’s the difference?! “Book Motivational Speaker”, “Hire Keynote Speaker”, “Book Guest Speaker”

Are you searching for a motivational speaker? Have you typed into Google “book guest speaker”, or “hire keynote speaker” to help find some suggestions for your conference speaker slot? Did you know that a motivational speaker, guest speaker and keynote speaker are, technically, all quite different things?

As a professional speaker for the past 12 years, I’ve written this handy guide to help you get exactly what you want, with the minimum of awkward surprises!

Probably, Maybe – Possible. How learning Japanese could change your mind

Tabun means possible.

The language we use defines our outlook and our behaviour.

A few weeks ago someone posted a message to my Facebook page; it was from a man called Phill, who had been in the audience at a conference I had presented at.  The message read:

So I’ve recently been learning Japanese. When I came to the word “Tabun” it really stuck out for me. It translates as both “probably” and “maybe”.

I have to admit that this post caught my attention; it’s not every day someone tells you they’ve been learning Japanese (French maybe, Spanish quite possibly but not Japanese) and declares it on your Facebook page. The first thing that struck me was how complicated Japanese looks as a language – but then that’s because I have absolutely no knowledge at all about the characters or how the language is formed. It all looks Greek to me. I imagine psychology and behaviour texts, or even english, looks alien to people who have no knowledge of those things, either. I’ve always thought Japanese must be a very complicated language to learn because it’s everything English isn’t: they

70 Years To The Day Since This…

Bettine Le Beau remembers her time in the Nazi concentration camps but as Jez Rose discovers, she couldn't be more positive.

Bettine Le Beau remembers her time in the Nazi concentration camps but as Jez Rose discovers, she couldn’t be more positive.

It is 70 years to the day that the Nazi concentration camps were liberated. 70 years ago today saw the end of the Holocaust. Jez talks to Bettine Le Beau about her extraordinary life as a Bond Girl, actress, model, author – and Holocaust survivor.

Approximately 11 million people; mostly Jewish but also gipsies, homosexuals and communists, were murdered by the Nazis during the Holocaust. Bettie Le Beau survived. It’s a story of high drama, tension and extreme

“Breaking News” – How To Make A Positive Impact

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Breaking News! Trust can be eroded when we forget the importance of integrity.

Have you ever called a business; maybe your dentist or your hairdressers and clearly got through to a call centre, who the business have outsourced to handle their calls? It’s quite a smart tactic on the business owner’s part, ensuring they capture all of the potential incoming sales. However, what really irritates me is when the person answering the phone pretends to be from or even based at the actual business itself. Desire the fact you know your dentist employs just three people, you can hear hundreds of people chatting in the background and their keyboards all clattering away.

Perhaps you’ve had a sales call at home and the person has been all chatty and pally with you, like you were rekindling some sort of long forgotten moment of friendship. That lack of sincerity and humanity really annoys me and I know it annoys some of you, too, because you tell me! Attempts to get on side with people happen all the time and yet, they often don’t have the affect intended.

This is a classic example, which happened to me just a few weeks ago. You might have heard me on the radio, or seen me on television. Of course, you might not have done either but in order for this post to make sense, I’m going to pull back the curtain and offer you a glimpse into the reality of appearing on radio and television and at the same time, hopefully, provide an opportunity to enhance the impact you make on others.

You see, when a radio station or television channel need someone to comment on a news story, or have an item of interest, which they think you would be the ideal person to respond to or interview about, they, perhaps unsurprisingly, call that person up; or in my case they call my management. Invariably, as is the reality of topical news, that call comes in fairly last minute in response to whatever the news is and if I’m not readily available to talk with them right there and then (which I’m often not), they’ll ask me to call them back. Naturally, they need someone to interview or comment to help liven up the news and vary the pace and tone so it’s more interesting to listen to or watch and what if I don’t get their message until much later and miss the deadline? What if I just don’t bother returning their call? These are, of course, understandable concerns the researcher has and so they move on to someone else, in an attempt to find someone else relevant to be interviewed. Quite often there will be more than one researcher making these calls for people to drop what they’re doing and appear on radio or television, so there are multiple cals happening and messages being left, for people to appear.

Now that’s all understandable and above board but here comes the interesting bit. When I find time to call them back, they may occasionally apologise that they no longer need me as they’ve confirmed with someone else, and I appreciate that very much as it saves my time and everyone knows where they stand. They don’t have to field my communication and I can go back to my work. However, as happened recently, when I call back and go through the many questions the researcher has and lengthy conversation about the topic so that they can gauge that I’m not drunk, off my face on prescription medication or unable to string a coherent sentence together, the researcher becomes very excited that I’d be perfect to appear and they’re very keen to have me on their show… then there will come an awkward, clumsy part of the conversation where the researcher is obviously being given information by someone else; perhaps another researcher or the editor, that they’ve found someone else, or already confirmed someone else. Instead of saying that, the researcher will hurriedly have to put the phone down and apologise for needing to call me back in a moment and when they do, they tell me this (and it’s always this same line): “Hello, Jez? I’m sorry but we’ve had some breaking news so we won’t be needing you for that story as we have to cover this new breaking story”…

That’s fine and I sometimes will tune in, anticipating to see a building collapse with hundreds trapped, or a lottery winner who has bought all of Oxford Street, or a cat that’s been found who looks like Lloyd Grossman, or the Prime Minister who is about to declare war but instead… nothing. Nothing that’s breaking at all. Ever. It was just an attempt to get on side with me so they could ditch the call.

You see, we know when someone isn’t telling the truth and although there are a number of things you can look out for, such as pupil dilation, a change in their normal communication pattern, speeding up over words, touching of the face and an awkwardness about their body language, the most significant thing we all can experience is a lack of sincerity and humanity. The problem when we experience this is that all trust and honesty that has been built with that individual is eroded. We can maintain relationships and in fact strengthen them by admitting when we don’t know an answer, haven’t got the required skills or by offering a truthful response. Because it demonstrates your humanity and, as the old sales cliche goes: people buy people.

An open letter to Robin Williams and what his death means for the rest of us

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Robin Williams was the embodiment of the funny bone – has his death given those suffering with depression a voice?

This letter accompanies this episode of TBE TV, which is a special tribute edition to Robin Williams.

Dear Robin,

I wanted to say thank you – and goodbye.

I doubt you will remember me but we did meet once and I was fortunate enough to work alongside you. Throughout my life you never failed to make me laugh and throughout the most impressionable period of my life you were an inspiration for me. You made me laugh and you made me cry. None more so than now did you make me cry. But this isn’t about me.

I tried to write this to you yesterday, on the day I heard about your death – but I couldn’t. So I went for a walk with my dogs; something which forces time to myself and allows quiet reflection. As I was walking through the fields, I felt slightly removed. Removed from the world which my dogs were enjoying; running around chasing each other, darting in and out of the river, splashing and having fun. Removed from society a bit, I guess. I’m feeling removed from fun – from life. As I walk through the beautiful Northamptonshire countryside in England, which I’m so fortunate enough to live in, the sun is slowly fading behind the trees. The fields are a beautiful lush green and the trees are a myriad of different colours of green. The stillness is palpable. There is a natural beauty to my surroundings, in every sense of the word, and the isolation from the rush of everyday life; from people and machines, is both refreshing and enrapturing. The  gentle breeze rustles the leaves of the trees.

And I’m feeling removed as I think of you and your tragic death. Tragic for you and for your family – and for me and millions of others around the world.

In itself that feeling of being removed from that moment in which my dogs are enjoying so intently, as I look on, and feeling removed from everyone else’s lives; from life, is an insight into what it’s like to

[MAGAZINE ARTICLE] Everything Speaks – can we positively change our behaviour? Jez is guest columnist for the Open University Society Matters

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Jez Rose discusses how simple it is to positively change our behaviour but warns of the consequences.

I was asked to write an article for the Open University’s online magazine Society Matters about whether it is possible to positively change human behaviour in a simple way.

It is and if we understand why we do the things we do and how to change them, we can, I believe, make a greater impact on the world for the better. It isn’t just about larger scale, grand things – it’s the little things that can have a big impact. Everything speaks.

Click here to read the article on the OU website.

Jez Rose is an award-winning behaviour change consultant working with organisations worldwide. For more information and free resources to actively change behaviour in your organisation and develop higher performance, visit www.thebehaviourexpert.com

Generosity, Greed & The Greater Good – how giving a little can mean a lot

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The Contented Dementia Trust at Burford has a fresh new look and more scope to help those caring for or suffering with dementia at a result of the Big Weekend Makeover.

At my recent TEDx talk, I spoke about generosity, greed and the greater good. I posed the question that when we help charities, is it actually an act of greed because our act of generosity in turn causes a release of the neurotransmitter dopamine, which makes us feel good. If it didn’t make us feel good, we wouldn’t do it again. Are businesses worldwide who donate to charity simply doing so for their own benefit; to make themselves feel – and look – good in others’ eyes. Or does it matter anyway, if charities are benefiting?

I recently organised a charity project called Jez’s Big Weekend Makeover. The aim was to enlist as many people as possible to turn up to the old building where my adopted charity, the Contented Dementia Trust, is based. The building was being taken over by clutter, weeds and looking in desperate need of a little nip and tuck. Would people turn up if there was really nothing in it for them – at all. No payment, no travel reimbursement and nothing to incentivise them, other than helping me out and in turn helping a very deserving charity. If you’re a regular reader of my